Hi. I am a nonbinary transgender person. Under section 7.4 of the Ontario Human Rights Code policy on preventing discrimination because of gender identity and gender expression, I have the right to be known by my chosen name and my proper personal pronouns. I am requesting that you respect this civil right.
eh-double-you. Please use this in all situations that do not require my full legal name.
they/them/their/themself. Here are some good things to know:-
theyis not a neologism. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, it has been in use since 1375, for example by Chaucer and Shakespeare. It is now an accepted pronoun for nonbinary people in both the OED and the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
theyoften worry about singular/plural ambiguities. However, they happily use the singular
youevery day, which suffers from the exact same ambiguities. We figure those out from context.
they, people usually struggle the most with picking the right verb inflections. (Is it
they are?) I hope they will be relieved to know that there is a simple universal rule: just use exactly the same verbs as for the singular
A.W. couldn't be here today because they just got the flu and don't want to spread it.
I invited A.W. to the party too -- I'm looking forward to seeing them there!
Is A.W. still stuck working at their office? Hope they can get themself home soon!
|1st person singular||I||me||my||myself|
|1st person plural||we||us||our||ourselves|
|2nd person singular||you||you||your||yourself|
|2nd person plural||you||you||your||yourselves|
|3rd person singular||they||them||their||themself|
|3rd person plural||they||them||their||themselves|
Dr.. Another gender neutral option is
mix, which is more commonly used in the UK than in North America.