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How to get my name and pronouns right

Greetings, fellow Earthling.

I am a nonbinary transgender person. Under section 7.4 of the Ontario Human Rights Code policy on preventing discrimination because of gender identity and gender expression, I have the right to be known by my chosen name and my proper personal pronouns. I am requesting that you respect this civil right.

My first name is A.W. (or A-Dub for short). Please use this in all situations that do not require my full legal name.
My 3rd person pronouns are they/them/their/themself. Here are some good things to know:-
- The singular they is not a neologism. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, it has been in use since 1375, for example by Chaucer and Shakespeare. It is now an accepted pronoun for nonbinary people in both the OED and the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
- People who resist using the singular they often worry about singular/plural ambiguities. However, they happily use the singular you every day, which suffers from the exact same ambiguities. We figure those out from context.
- When first asked to use the singular they, people usually struggle the most with picking the right verb inflections. (Is it they is or they are?) I hope they will be relieved to know that there is a simple universal rule: just use exactly the same verbs as for the singular you. Examples:-
  - A.W. couldn't be here today because they just got the flu and don't want to spread it.
  - I invited A.W. to the party too -- I'm looking forward to seeing them there!
  - Is A.W. still stuck working at their office? Hope they can get themself home soon!
  (For more detail, see table below.)
I do not like honorifics much. But if you would feel more comfortable using one, my honorific is Prof. or Dr..

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